Modesty According to Men

As an apostolic pentecostal woman modesty is very important to me. How I dress, speak, or present myself to the public as well as in private, matter. I always strive to convey a christ-like image. Modesty is also important to my husband. He is especially particular about gym attire. He prefers me to not have a lot of skin showing and he also prefers that I don’t wear form fitting clothing. As his wife, I respect his thoughts and opinions. Also, I actually enjoy wearing dresses and looking like a woman of God as described in the Bible.

The Bible says in 1 Timothy 2:9 “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array”

I spent some time interviewing men around me (work, Facebook, etc) to get their perspectives. The answers were interesting to hear:

J: “To me modesty means a woman not wearing revealing clothing. Also though, it’s none of my business if you’re modest or not. It’s my responsibility as a man to keep myself in check.”

It’s my responsibility as a man to keep myself in check. I love that!

D: Modesty is a different concept to different people. Thinking about how people see you. Do you look like you belong on a street corner?

That is an interesting ponder point; being concerned about whether or not you look like you belong on a street corner. In this day and age young ladies wearing revealing clothing is basically the norm. They don’t even think twice about it. Simply strolling through the girls section in a clothing store tells quite the story! I don’t know about you but if I had a daughter, I wouldn’t want to see her in tiny shorts and itty bitty tank tops. Unfortunately those are the items being marketed to girls as young as 7.

JA: There’s no need to be so rigid, but it has gotten out of hand in the black church with young women being more and more provocative though. There’s a time and a place to be sexy, but the house of God is not the place.

Merriam-Webster defines ‘sexy’ in two ways: Erotic or Appealing. The extended definition for appealing is attractive or interesting. I think that, that is the ultimate goal for women who choose to dress in revealing clothing. They want to be seen as attractive and interesting. Years of conditioning from the media has shown them that the way to catch that mans attention is to have your chest and legs showing. Trust me when I say this Sis: that man in church definitely noticed you. He’s still a man. He just may not be thinking what you expect him to be thinking.

Sr: “The world has become too loose and women are too revealing. It started with the bare midriff and then escalated to cleavage bearing tops. We are going the wrong way.

‘We are going the wrong way’. That’s a great way to put it. We don’t even have to go back as far as bible days to see modest women. Housewives of the fifties and sixties were still dressing modestly. Dresses and skirts that reached the knees and tops that covered the top with a cardigan that reached 3/4 way down the arm were not only common but popular.

BJ: “Modesty is about knowing your worth and nothing is more impressive than someone who knows their worth.

One of my favorite quotes is ‘Know your worth, and then add tax’. I’m not sure who said it first. It basically just means that you need to over value yourself sometimes. You are worth more than revealing tops and form fitting pants. You are worth more than the vulgar language that crosses your lips. You are worth more than putting down another woman to make yourself seem better. YOU. ARE. WORTH. MORE.

It is said and proven that trends circle back and become popular again once they have gone out of fashion. Let’s hope that the same can be said of modesty.


Divide and Conquer

I walked into my bedroom the other day and saw this…

My first thought was how divided it looks. I immediately thought this would make a great blog post. But from what angle?? I snapped this picture and spent a few days thinking on it. Division in your household is never a good thing. How could I make what looks like division into a show of unity? The term ‘Divide & Conquer’ came to mind. See, while spouses may get out of bed on opposite sides, the sheets and blankets showing a visible division, they still stand in unification.

Mark 3:25 says, ‘And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.’

The devil can see even the tiniest bit of division in a marriage and he will try to sneak in there and take advantage of that and widen that gap. That’s where the conquer part comes in. So while yes you guys are getting out of bed on the opposite side, you’re standing in unity to conquer the trials and tribulations of the day.

Current Music Playlist

I know that my handle says ‘housewife’ but i want to be able to contribute some kind of income to my household so I do have a job. It’s awesome! A Christian based before/after care program at my sons school. This is the playlist that is on repeat at the moment…

What are you guys currently listening to?

X Marks the Spot

It’s easy to forget that Earth isn’t our forever home. We get so bogged down in stressing about money…bills…petty drama…and so many different things that seem vitally important in the moment, that we forget what the end goal is: To make it to heaven!

As I was walking to my car the other day I looked up and noticed God had given me a gentle reminder to always look up and remember where I’m headed. Money problems…overdue bills…health concerns…squabbles with friends or loved ones…God can get you through all of those things if you ask. Then when it’s time, we’ll get to go home with him!

The Bible says: ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.’ -Revelation 21:4

X marks the spot friends!

He Knows…

God is amazing. He knows you. Every single hair on your head. He knows them all. That’s amazing to me! I was thinking about how well God knows me today on my way home from church…I currently attend a church with something like 800 members. We’re still considered ‘new’. I’m a pretty shy person so that can be a bit overwhelming; trying to get to know them all. I’m starting to remember names and faces on sight though…

While I’ve always been a Christian, I wasn’t born Pentecostal. I married into it. My husband attended a VERY small church. By ‘small’, I mean the only members were his family and a close family friend. Ten and half years later it’s still the same. That was my introduction to the truth. I wasn’t receptive at all. I was still pretty young and set in my ways back then so I wasn’t as open to listening. God knew that. Fast forward about 4 years. We moved and we started attending a different church. Basically the same as the first. He had lots of family and close family friends there, but there were also others. I went once, and never went again! A couple years later while I was helping my mother recover from knee surgery, my husband found another church in a different city! He had been going for a while and loved it. When I returned to Texas I agreed to visit though I hadn’t had many great church experiences in the five years it had been at that point. I walked in and knew I was home! However. Haha. It was maybe a month before I visited a second time. This church, located in Port Arthur was bigger than the first but smaller than the second. Everyone was lovely. They made me feel like I was already one of them even though they’d never seen me before. A lady there offered my family a home bible study. She. Was. Persistent. Haha. We said no but she keep asking. Finally my husband said yes and maybe a month later I was baptized in Jesus name! The following week I got the Holy Ghost and spoke in tongues! SUCH a great experience! I was a different woman from that point on! 5 years later my husband and I renewed our vows in that church. It was the perfect place for our little family of three.

Then hurricane Harvey happened.

My husband decided he no longer wanted to live on the coast and he had a sister in the Dallas area so that’s where we ended up. Of course, priority number one was to find a new church. He found one via Google and when we visited the first time, we got that ‘welcome home’ feeling that I’d had before. This new church was about 3 times the size of the last one! The one in Port Arthur was a medium sized church. There weren’t as many people so getting to know everyone was much easier. Here it’s going to take a bit longer but we’re getting there thanks to things like the monthly connect groups that are available.

All of these baby steps to get where I am today in my personal walk with God weren’t happenstance. They were planned in His perfect wisdom because he knew exactly what I needed to get where He needed me to be at that moment in my life.

That. Is. Amazing.


As a child I was told ‘Never pray for patience…’. They never said why though. It wasn’t until I was an adult and found a Pentecostal church that I finally got the answer. ‘…because with patience comes trials.’

Those trials, I’ll tell ya. They can be a headache! They are sneaky little buggers!! Just when you think life is going great, BOOM! Instinctually you want to ask God for patience to weather the storm but then you remember those trials and find yourself asking if you prayed for patience inadvertently lol.

So if you can’t pray for patience in this situation, how do you proceed? Below you’ll find some scriptures that might get you through those moments of stormy weather…

Deuteronomy 31:6 – Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he [it is] that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.

Philippians 4:19 – But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

2 Corinthians 12:9 – And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

When you have a few moments, pray and meditate over these few verses.

Be strong. Have faith. Be of good courage.


Eye of the Storm

Ryan Stevenson


In the eye of the storm

You remain in control

And in the middle of the war

You guard my soul

You alone are the anchor

When my sails are torn

Your love surrounds me

In the eye of the storm

When the solid ground is falling out from underneath my feet

Between the black skies, and my red eyes, I can barely see

When I realize I’ve been sold out by my friends and my family

I can feel the rain reminding me

In the eye of the storm, You remain in control

In the middle of the war, You guard my soul

You alone are the anchor, when my sails are torn

Your love surrounds me

In the eye of the storm

Mmm, when my hopes and dreams are far from me

And I’m runnin’ out of faith

I see the future I picture slowly fade away

And when the tears of pain and heartache

Are pouring down my face

I find my peace in Jesus’ name

In the eye of the storm (yeah, yeah)

You remain in control (yes you do, Lord)

In the middle of the war

You guard my soul

You alone are the anchor

When my sails are torn

Your love surrounds me (Your love surrounds me)

In the eye of the storm (in the eye of the storm)

When the test comes in and the doctor says

I’ve only got a few months left

It’s like a bitter pill I’m swallowing

I can barely take a breath

And when addiction steals my baby girl

And there’s nothing I can do

My only hope is to trust You

I trust You, Lord

In the eye of the storm (yeah, yeah)

You remain in control

In the middle of the war (middle of the war)

You guard my soul (yeah!)

You alone are the anchor

When my sails are torn

Your love surrounds me (yeah!)

In the eye of the storm

You remain in control (yes you do, Lord)

In the middle of the war (in the middle of the war)

You guard my soul

You alone are the anchor

When my sails are torn

Your love surrounds me

In the eye of the storm

Oh, in the eye of

Lord, in the eye of the storm

I know You’re watching me, yeah


When the storm is raging (when the storm is raging)

And my hope is gone (and my hope is gone, Lord)

When my flesh is failing

You’re still holding on, oh whoa

When the storm is raging (the storm is raging)

And my hope is gone (and all my hope is gone)

When my flesh is failing (my flesh is failing)

You’re still holding on, ooh

When the storm is raging (when the storm is raging)

And my hope is gone (and my hope is gone)

Even when my flesh is failing (flesh is failing)

You’re still holding on, holding on

The Lord is my Shepherd

I have all that I need

He let’s me rest in green meadows

He leads me beside peaceful streams

He renews my strength

He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to His Name

Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid

For You are close beside me